She is jovial, Takes care of everything. With no intention to hurt anyone. With no intention to break the trust… Working hard to be the mom she wanted… Striving to be the wife her husband wanted her to be. Convincing herself that she is alive amidst her responsibilities. She is exhausted. Living under the pressure of expectations. She is like a time bomb ticking her way through ages… She is becoming uncertain, about her needs, her dreams, her desires, and much more… She might explode one day. Every day is a struggle for her… She struggles to binge through her existence. To become what she ever wanted. To be the saddle of her dreams. But here she was crushed under the burden of responsibilities. Which turned her into someone she barely knew… Help her survive, even if you know she is stronger. Hold her hand, and strive her through the existence… Let her bloom, With a dash of sunlight. And a pinch of love and care. And lots of consideration. … …. TheChaoticPoetess #thechaoticpoetess #sreepriyawrites #beingher #beingmom #writeAndinspire #womanrising #letherrise #enpowerwoman #strongwoman #beingawoman #powerofbeingawoman
Perfect morning and I am as usual into the daily chores. But again what was so special about the day? Nothing, but it was International Women’s Day, and it is all perfectly normal for me. Like always, I posted something for Women’s day, and all wished me the same. I too wished the same to all.
But then I realized, do we women actually feel the speciality of this day?
Do we feel that we are being especially accepted or just accepted at least?
Why do women I know, feels quite related to contents posted on inequality, gender gap, no financial independence, security and safety, emotional abuse and much more violence?
Are we truly celebrating the day with a whole heart or a hole in the heart?
Dont we all truly feel the pain of injustice happening to all the women in the world or maybe anything related to a human being?
I do not claim that all women are oppressed, but many are.
There are child rapes happening, rapes and abuse and much more, but never given justice.
Don’t you think that these injustices happening around need to be curbed for the good?
Why we celebrate this Women’s day
when most women around us are not even valued for their gender?
when there are numerous child rape cases happening and only the women are blamed for it?
When there is domestic abuse occurring, but again the women do silently suffer without hesitance?
When women themselves are blaming their own kind, how can even man support it?
When the gender gap is created by women itself.
how can justice prevail, when the women are not into it together. If I say I would blame the women in the society for downgrading themselves to the level of being treated like trash.
The mothers teach their daughters to silently suffer marital rape and be in a relationship, where they suffer a lot in the name of society. The mothers teach their daughters to do household chores and ask the boys to sit on the couch and enjoy snacking. When the women themselves are not confident enough to think better of themselves and blame the other independent women to be bitch who never take care of the family, she is bounded to, it is indeed a big war among the same breed.
But again, women need not have any ones approval to be what she wants. All she needs is to be accepted as who she is irrespective of all factors that categorize her as a woman. Let her be her….and he be him. Why mix coffee and tea as they both have their own flavours and taste.
Whole in whole, I feel like a complete woman in my own way. For me, being whole means I do not need an identity as a mom, or a daughter or a sister .. all I need is the identity of a whole woman, not a tag line that lingers around me.
And someday I shall achieve it, no matter what. But again, once i attain it, all the identity that lingered with me will shatter away, because, those roles I carried on till then need me in the way they want, not how I wanted myself to be.
Till then, Women’s day is yet another day in my life.
To all Women who feel complete in their life
Happy Women’s Day !!
Do let me know in the comments, how you feel complete. I believe everyone has their own reasons. Even men can comment, what’s your idea of a complete woman.
Call me an advocate for self-love… Yea…i always keep encouraging every other person around me to take some “me time”off. It is indeed much needed when it comes to individuals. In the past, due to my negligence i had sacrificed my me time and given it away for sake of others and in the end, it was just me who got blamed for. So that’s when i decided to take some time off and spend doing something i just love to. It can be just reading, binge-watching some series like friends(maybe again n again), or a stress free time on my balcony gazing at the sky, or just cycle around with my friend. These never harm anyone, but inturn benefits us in a great way. We all are always in a hustle amidst the bustle of life, wherein we see each and everyone around us, but what about us…just look at yourself. Enjoy your good health, enjoy your book or even a bite of a meal or even a movie. All those things you missed to glance at. Hop around and dance away until your heart feels like flying. Me time is essential, for keeping yourself happy and the people around you happy. I keep suggesting this because i know i was broken once and then it took me loads of time to gather every broken piece of me to be who i am now. Learn to love yourself again. Self-love is a call to yourself. . .
Ever since 2020 began, life is not just going normal. We are trying to adapt to new things, something is changing but some remain the same.
Ever thought, that one single thing arrives and the whole world changes drastically. If you are looking into the negative sides you might still stumble upon a few more to think upon. But why go for negativity, when we have loads of positivity to search for.
I quite remember the early December in 2019 when in news they showed about corona virus and how people were suffering in China. At that moment like any other, I too thought it was fake or something, not gonna be arriving in India. But then to my shock, everything began to change tremendously. This deadly virus arrived in the city, it created panic and tension. I remember the very last day I was sending my daughters to school, with all those hand sanitizers and all… It is all like yesterday.
This virus, burst like hell and broke my lil one’s best graduation event too. I just hated those things. But what to do, have to live .. than be saddened upon these things.
Ever since March, we all were just indoors, not going anywhere but staying under the same roof for a longer and longer time. Sometimes, time begins to eat our patience, as we all are never being together in space like this. It was indeed difficult.
New habits, new things and much more.
I was scared that my kids are gonna be TV addicts and I am gonna be much more stout and plump that I wont be able to get out of that door. Panic dreams and scary dreams haunted me day and night.
Never knew we all could survive these 7 months like this and gonna survive much more…
The first few days went well.. but then work, household work, kids boredom everything began to eat my patience a lot. Moreover doing nothing, my weight also began to revolt. And over this, the news about the spread was much more frightening. All I could wonder was how people are so careless…
It is truly said that when you don’t feel good from within, the whole world outside you is also gonna tumble down.
Hence What I did was…
The very first thing I did was, completely take myself away from this news and media, which was anyways not doing them justice and creating panic more.
Once I did this, I was far away from collapsing.
The next thing I did was focus on myself… I started to work out, eat right and focus on being a healthy mind and body. In this venture, I included my kids too, started doing fun workouts with them, which in turn helped me and them and I got plenty of quality time with them, which I don’t say at all.
Decided to read more books, hence brought the same. Even indulged in making my kids find healthy reading habits too. Moreover, it helped my daughters to improve themselves in this period.
Vacation which prolonged a lot, we utilized teaching our mother tongue to my kids, which again came out well maybe not exemplary but yes Good for me.
We went for walks together, spend quality time playing together caroms, badminton, and much more… which was indeed fun. It kept my brain and heart happier. Even I got the opportunity to learn cycling and include it in my healthy regime to continue my journey to fitness dedicatedly.
The important thing we did was sticking to a routine, no matter its holiday or not, we ensured we get up early, finish everything on time and then sit to work or study or even for being free. This helped us in a great deal and saved much of my time.
So overall, this pandemic brought me so many things in surplus with my dear ones and that makes me happier. Although there are other things I miss, then we all are in a virtual world, things are turning well. At least we can work remotely, be in touch with friends who were long gone from our life for a while, learn new things and also be around our kids and watch them grow.
So If I put everything together:
Self-love and self-motivation.
Fix a routine.
Be with family.
Count your blessings
Fix your time and schedule to ensure you get plenty of time free or to do what you love.
Sleep well.. sleep enough not too much.
Take up a new hobby or get back to your favourite niche.
Dont worry, Menstrual cup did not get lost in the vagina.. as for me.
Like all others, even I was using sanitary pads ever since I had periods, hence was indeed reluctant to try something new. Even when the pads used to quite itchy to my tender skin, i used to continue using the same. I remember once in Swiss, i had to use Tampons, but that itself was a hard task for me. It took me half an hour to find the holes :P.
Trust me… until then, I never knew, we females have such a complicated body. Imagine hours spend inside the toilet, just to find the hole to insert the menstrual cup took up my patience.
So Why I began to use Menstrual cup?
Not long ago, yea just years before I knew this menstrual cup ever existed through my mom and so many women bloggers and vloggers who have shared so many informative things. But thanks to my laziness, I never bothered to try it until last year. I ended up buying a menstrual cup, which looked too big for me. I kept looking at its size, wondering, how I will fit it inside my body.
And Like always, I just ended up dumping it in my cupboard, because of my lack of patience and more like a reluctance to let something foreign enter my body. Months went by and i brought one more menstrual cup, assuming that I was wrong about the size I purchased, but again did not use it at all.
Finally, my bestie, who comes as a saviour in all the situation came up suddenly, like a lightning and explained to me and shared her joy of using the menstrual cup. And yes, her words are like words from heaven for me. So I decided to give a try again. And this time a lil wholeheartedly.
After a long discussion with her and burdening her with all my silly thoughts which she patiently answers always, I brought another menstrual cup ( same as hers, just to ensure I don’t fail this time ).
Before the periods arrived I sat with my mom, discussing the pros and cons of the same. And yes pros were indeed weighing higher. We belong to a small village in Kerala, hence waste management is not that prominent, and, these sanitary pads, i had to burn in the backyard which was never a good thing to do. So mostly I was little reluctant to travel to my hometown these days. And even here in Bangalore, it is not easy, I felt, hence decided to give a try for no waste menstrual time. This again affirmed my thoughts on using Menstrual cup.
Finally, Day Arrived.
Since it was the first time, I had to mentally prepare my self. I went in with the cup and decided to give a try. First, two-three attempts went in vain, as my mind was repelling and hence my body. Almost one moment I was about to give up and use the sanitary pad again.. but then I decided to give a final try.
And yea Eureka. !!!! I did it.
It was comfortably inserted into my vagina… And I was comfortable better than I expected. I just came out of the bathroom and immediately message my bestie lot many thanks.
So Now the hurdle time :
Insertion drama over, now how to remove was yet another though stirring my mind. But actually, it wasn’t hard as I expected it should be. Moreover, my mind wanted to push it out sooner than getting it inside.
Later my first day went well. The next day since the flow was higher, i had to be careful, but I did spill it when i took it out. Hence if you are trying for the first time, ensure that you change the cup multiple times when you have a heavy flow.
Minimum 4-5 hours is ideal, it is better to change and wash and then use again after a couple of hours.
At first, it was indeed difficult for me to even going to the toilet, but then gradually I was comfortable and used to. Now I can say, I am living with it. With the second period cycle, I was so comfy, that I do it with lightning speed.
So here are a few things that I felt, it is important to share with you all ladies :
You might not get it in the first attempt.
Never give up, it is not rocket science.
The cup is not going to get vanished into the vagina ..so chill.
Use the right cup that suits you, hence buy it carefully. I would recommend U shaped ones, as they are ideal to lock in when inserting.
No leakage .. so it’s perfect. hence no stain on panties. ( something I worry a lot) . Yes, I did use a sanitary pad, for a couple of times, but then now I guess I don’t need them now.
I could sleep peacefully at night, as no worries of overflowing.
For Some the stem might be prickly, in that case , read that you can trim it too to suit your need.
Going to the loo, won’t be a problem, Do give a try.
Make sure, you clean it with warm water well.
When it comes to folding the menstrual cup, for me the C folding didn’t work, hence I recommend.
10. Have loads of patience with the first try . And it’s not dirty, it’s hygienic. Think it that way before you use.
I hope this will help you.
A change is inevitable, when you can see, that it is ideal for you and nature. So never hesitate on the same.